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A Typical Clinic Visit for my Daughter With Leukemia Type pre-BALL.

Its never fun to go to the clinic, and after 7 months we are not used to it nor do I believe we will ever get used to it. Once walking inside the clinic we sign Briannas name in the patient check in board and we sit until we have to go get vitals. Once the tech calls us by name, she walks us to the back to an area where they check weight, height, temperature, heart rate, and respiratory rate. My daughter really dislikes having to do this, particularly the pressure cup but bring some bubbles and she may get distracted enough to get it done. Once they got vitals down, they tell us which room we belong in and we walk towards our room number. Once in the room we wait until the other tech comes who will get our daughter “accessed” which means they will connect a needle similar to IV on the arm but in Briannas case itll be thru a device on her chest. On her diagnosis stay at the hospital they made a small incision on her chest to put a tube in her heart artery so medication would go in thru her chest. Here is a picture that came with her introduction binder they gave me at the hospital.Once someone comes to access Brianna we walk to a different room. We usually have a child life specialist come to help distract Brianna and make the process less scary for the kids. Child life is great! The most wonderful ladies work there and are so sweet and very sympathetic to the children that have to go thru the treatment. We sit in a large chair, I sit with her because shes very fiesty and she needs me to hold her arms to give room and allow the tech to clean and sterlize the area where her port is located to avoid infection. The tech makes sure we have face masks also to avoid any bacteria to her port access area. Once accessed she adds a cover on top of the needle which is like a clear tape that protects incase water or anything tries to get in the access area and to support the needle in place. After that the tech needs to be sure she is infact accessed correctly by putting the insulin syringe and instead of pushing insulin in she will pull the syringe to withdraw to see if she sees blood on the see thru cords. If she see’s blood she will withdraw blood until the syringe is bright red instead of clear insulin. Then she grabs a clear syringe and gets a  small blood sample so she can run a complete blood count test. After we get the blood sample she puts the insulin in and we are done. Brianna and I then go back to our room to wait for the doctor to give us her results which usually decide whether or not she can get her treatment that day. If her counts are low then they take the needle out and we have to go home, wait a week and try again until her counts are good enough according  to standards. If her counts are good then we go over the plan and where she is in treatment, discuss the next phase of treatment and the doctor quickly checks her lungs and respiration with stethoscope then checks her eyes, mouth, and ears for any possible infections. They have to be extra careful with infections as patients who have cancer really shouldnt get sick, their immune system is down due to the chemotherapy so they wouldnt be able to fight off a cold on their own, checking for signs of infection is vital. Once cleared by the doctor we head to the infusion area, which is where you see all patients who have already gone thru the check in part and are ready to recieve in clinic treatment. This part of the clinic visit is the longest, they have to get the chemo ready for each individual patient as it all depends on their weight and height. We normally wait an hour before anything starts, then the actualy process to administer the chemotherapy depends on what type of chemotherapy the patient recieves, then the patient is deaccessed and set to go home. Sometimes the infusion takes 5 minutes or sometimes it takes an hour, thats for my 3 year old because shes tiny, I have no doubt the older kids take longer because they get more chemo but the speed of infusion is the same. As noted, we are not used to all of the process and I dont think we will anytime soon or at all. My daughter still cries just as bad as the first day of treatment when they have to access and deaccess her, she also doesnt want to see her doctor, nurse, tech, or even front desk receptionist. We still manage to get everything done, we have for the past 7 months and she is doing well with her treatment.  I am very proud of my daughter, shes so strong and shes such a fighter! No child should deal with everything she has gone thru. I have faith that god has a plan, I was confused and hurt about my child going thru this initially but I still have faith that god surely has a plan for her, for my little man, and for us as their parents. May God bless everyone!
Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional so anything in the post is purely observation from a parents point of view, these are not standard procedure steps that i am aware of. Maybe other clinics work differently depending on the volume of patients that they deal, the number of doctors staffed, and size of the clinic. This is to explain my experiance with my daughter who has leukemia when we go to her treatment clinic.

The only acne and oily skin solution i have found AND its homemade!!

My dear readers, latetly I have been dealing with stress and excess oil from all the cooking, cleaning, and running after my kids i’ve been doing, the usual mom stuff. I tried solution after solution to solve my problem, changed my make up products, changed my diet, bought facial scrubs and made my own but nothing helped. I gave one last homemade idea a try and that was the winner!! Ive been going strong for a month now with this homemade idea and ive had people tell me my skin was glowing when a month before they were telling me that i was breaking out alot.
Im not sure if it was the consistensy that made this show results faster for me but my skin if very sensitive so for this to have worked for me and pretty quick is really a miracle.
So the big fuss is about 3 simple ingredients which are:

Apply cider vinegar, lemon, and water.

Apple cider has been amazing for my acne and skin discoloration, what i read about apple cide vinegar was that it actually makes a great toner, so I decided i needed to try to it. However, that didnt really give much solution to my oily skin problem. Thats where the lemon comes into play. So I actually read that lemon helps with oily skin by drying the skin, now i would not recommend adding lemon if you have dry skin, only if you have excess oil.

Here are the measurements:

1 part apple cider vinegar

1 part water

1tbs of lemon (if needed for oil control)

So if you have a cup of water add one cup of apple cider vinegar. To keep the freshness i also store it in the refrigerator. I go every morning and night to apply to a clean face with a cotton swab. I water my face down with warm water to open my pores and let the toner sit and either i apply my make up directly or leave it as is. I have decided to apply it twice a day as i was desperate and i was breaking out alot! Im gonna continue to use this for my oily and acne prone skin but im going to change the amount i use once i clear up completely. After my skin gets better i will use once daily just as i would use any toner right before applying makeup. Please let me know how it worked for you thank you for stopping by to read my blog!😊

Make your own natural anti-colic baby remedy

So you have a newborn who appears to be colicky and you have no idea how to soothe him/her. An old remedy that we practice back in my country in Bolivia is using aniseed. Herbal medicine has been around since forever and with so many products with all sorts of  chemicals, herbs are becoming obsolete. However in places where there isnt the money to get a product that costs that much, you use what you have at home which in this case its aniseed.


Here are the instructions on how to use this for your colicky baby.

  • what you do is boil a small amount of anise on a small pot. About 2-3 cups of water and a tsp of aniseed.
  • Once it is boiling, allow 5 minutes of boiling then turn it off. If you must use right away put a small amount to the side and blow until it is cool enough to give your newborn, otherwise let it cool until its cool enough to give to your baby. (Dont use if it has been sitting out for more than an hour) Mind you that the anise itself is not given to the baby, just the boiled water.
  • You grab a pacifier and dip it in the liquid and little by little give your baby thru the pacifier. Give a very small amount maybe 5-10 dips of the boiled water and you should see results within the hour.

We use this as a natural remedy back home and I’ve heard its actually used alot in most of south and central america. If the problem does not resolve I would make an appointment with your pediatrician to see what they can recommend. This is how I soothed my babies and how I was soothed as a baby and it worked wonders for many generations in my family and my husbands family. If you choose to try to remedy let me know how it worked out for you in the comments. Lastly I do want to say, star anise is not the same as aniseed, so please make sure you get the right one as start anise is not recommended. Dont forget to sign up in my newsletter to get updates on the latest home remedys or how to’s.   🙂


This picture shows my little girl exactly who she is. She is always smiling, she has that personality that lights up anyone’s day. Even when she’s upset she can make you smile if you are the one that needs a cheer up. This picture was taken moments before we had to shave her hair off because it was patches underneath the hat. I cannot bear to see her without a hat on now because it’s just a huge reminder that she’s going thru cancer. I don’t take pictures of her to share or even really at all because once we get thru this I do not want to remember. I have a few that in case I need to remind her how strong she was since young, but not like before. It may be bad of me to chose this way of being or handling her situation but she doesn’t even wonder why I stopped snapping pictures of her since I’m always doing something with her or taking care of the house she doesn’t even miss it honestly. I felt the need to share tho, it could be because I want to just vent a bit that these changes are challenging. To some people it’s “just hair” but for me it’s just more real, as odd as it may sound, it’s been very hard for me to accept this whole thing with my little girl but the more I can visibly cover it up the more I can feel like regular life. With her hair gone and a scarf on all day it just reminds me that she’s going thru this, its very difficult to be strong with a reminder in front of you. Although, I guess it wasn’t that hard to cover it up with the hair all over her pillow, all over the floor, all over the couch… yeah it’s just not easy and it doesn’t get any easier just more manageable? If that makes sense. Anyway, I think there’s many parents out there going thru their own version of difficult changes and challenges and I just want to say that you are not alone. It’s hard to imagine that you love your baby that much and they’re going thru so much and there are parents with perfectly healthy babies and they don’t show them they love or care for them. Everyday we are with our kids it’s a blessing, whether you believe in god(s) or don’t believe, you know that the love for your kid is REAL. If any parent out there wants to share any tips to cope or ideas that helped them you are welcome to. No matter what we have to be strong, do it for your “Brianna.”💛

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Stay at home MOMS/DADS!

Hello all stay at home moms(or dads)! I wanted to learn from you all, what do guys do to split the work with your significant other? I’m a stay at home mom from Monday to Sunday! Meanwhile my husband works Monday thru Saturday with Tuesday off (and Sunday of course) but I still get no break! I’ve  decided that maybe I should have Tuesdays off and he takes care of the house duties and Sundays he gets off while I take care of the home duties. I havent brought up the idea yet and I just recently because a SAHM so we are still trying to figure it out. Please ladies or gentleman give me your input on what and how you all split duties so its fair. Just leave it in the comments! Thank you! 😊

The good and The Bad, Which is It?

Parenting is such a big word, It means so much to be a parent and yet so hard to do. Its like graduating from a class you never took but you have that title and have to own up to such a title. In the end it comes down to deciding what is good, and what is bad when you raise your children. There are some more obvious answers such as “should my child play with fire today?” But there are also some that are not that obvious and there are so many different arguments about whether its good or whether its bad that as parents we have to question ourselves if that’s the path we want to take, a huge example would be vaccines. Why do I mention vaccines? Well that’s one decision that you make as soon as you leave the hospital (sometimes even at the hospital), the next day you need to head to your pediatrician and he/she will administer your newborns first vaccines. An important decision and yet it is rushed. There are a million debates about vaccines and that it causes this and that and children shouldn’t get them etc, etc. Back to the question, how can we as parents decide what is good and what is bad? No matter what decision you make when it comes to those answers where the answer isn’t so clear that best thing you can do as a parent is get yourself informed! I mention this because I haven’t been a mom long enough but I’ve had so many people in my ear about what I need to do and how I need to raise my kids that I totally forgot about my parent/mommy gut instinct and listened to everyone else. In the end those same people whose advice I followed ended up blaming me claiming whatever I did was wrong ANYWAY. I know that when family tries to advice you It’s not easy to say “hey we actually don’t want to do that, or try that, or according my research it’s actually not that good” but sometimes you have to! Just let them know that you are doing your own research and going to decide whether its good or bad, even tho you don’t actually even have to explain yourself!! I had a long struggle trying to make everyone happy and it always backfired! Having a son with speech delay(possibly mild autism) and a daughter just diagnosed with Leukemia I had those same people telling me it was my fault, even tho doctors told me in front of them that there was nothing i did or did not do to cause as there isn’t any known reason as to why a child could have those two specific problems. Listen to your parent instinct, you do have one and if you have doubts do your research and get yourself informed! I learned that If I can’t hear my instinct because people are yelling their opinions at me I just need to research it and have my eyes see what my gut is whispering in order to make sense of it. To those parents who are undecided, just have confidence in yourself! Parenting is not easy and just know someone will always disagree with your choices as a parent and that’s okay! Just do the best for your kids according to you (and what you may have researched). The goal is to raise children that are going to be positive human beings and make positive contributions in the human race even after you are gone. Good luck parents! It’s not easy but its possible!!

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img_7146img_7135Thank you for taking the time to view my website, my name is Monica and I am a mommy of two wonderful kids and wife of a wonderful man. We have a son named Fabian age 5 and a little girl named Brianna age 3. Being a mom has been the most challenging yet rewarding job I’ve had and I mean that. Part of the difficulties wasnt so much the being a mom part (which is hard on its own)but the obstacles that my kids have. My son has speech delay and while he has not yet been diagnosed a few speech pathologists suggested he shows signs of autism, that was when he was 3.5 years old. Hes currently in kindergarten receiving especial ed classes. My daughter was diagnosed with Leukemia Pre B.A.L.L on september 27th 2016. My world was turned upside down to learn my little princess has to deal with such a condition. Since then Ive had to re evaluate my mommy ways and see if I can improve because theres always room for improvement when you are a parent. Ive also quit my job to devote 100% to the kids and decided I would try the blog thing. I realized there may be people like me (maybe not exactly the same scenario) that want to learn tips or even seek for words of encouragement to cope. We can all learn together and let each other know as a mini community what may work and may not work. Once again welcome to my page! Feel free to leave me comments, Thank you!

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